370. Life’s Unforgettable Moments. A personal Reflection. Coping with Personal Grief

There are moments in our lives that we will never forget. Sometimes they just happen out of the blue and at other times they occur as part of a process we are going through. One such moment was way back in 1964 when in an unplanned moment I proposed to my beautiful gorgeous girlfriend Carole, and she answered “Yes!”

Another was when she said “I do!” to become my wife during our wedding ceremony some 17 months later. I saw both as part of God’s wonderful timing and His gracious provision to me of a gracious dearly loved life-partner. What love we shared and what blessing we received over those almost 54 years together in Him!

Just one year ago today, on the Friday after my 14 October birthday, came another unexpected unforgettable moment. I was helping Carole move slowly to her favourite chair in the lounge. Her legs were massively swollen because of the uterine and cervical cancers she had been battling. Suddenly she stopped, took hold of the top of a chair, turned to face me, looking up into my eyes with her soft brown eyes that always melted me as I looked into them and said softly, “Darling, thank you for loving me. Thank you for caring for me.” This was different to the frequent affirmations of love between us every day, “Darling, I love you so much!”

It may have been that she realised that she had lived much longer than the medicos expected but that her body was now succumbing rapidly to the ravaging cancers. Her words touched me deeply. I realised that I had cared for her physical needs since she was recovering from breast cancer in 2008. No one else had ever come to our home to help her with her ablutions, dressing, bandaging etc etc when she needed help. It had been my privilege alone. But caring was always a part of loving the wonderful creature God had given me to love, as part of loving Him.

Just 24 hours later Carole said, “Darling, I think I need to go to Emergency.” We felt we were life-members of Emergency because we had been there so often! But as I wrote recently, this would be the last time I would drive my beloved Carole anywhere before the Lord took her home just 12 days later.

Unforgettable moments! Reflect on them! Treasure them! The memories of God’s grace at work in our lives in those moments helps sustain us through those difficult times we all have to face!

Blog No.370. Posted on http://www.jimholbeck.blog on Saturday 17th October 2020 but previously posted on my Facebook page on Friday 16th October 2020

About Jim Holbeck

Once an Industrial Chemist working for the Queensland Government but later an Anglican minister in Brisbane, Armidale and Sydney. Last position for eighteen years before retirement in 2006 was as the Leader of the Healing Ministry at St Andrew's Cathedral Sydney.
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1 Response to 370. Life’s Unforgettable Moments. A personal Reflection. Coping with Personal Grief

  1. cindisho says:

    Beautiful Jim! Such a good reminder!

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